The Eye Language

“The soul, fortunately, has an interpreter - often an unconscious but still a faithful interpreter - in the eye.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

                Eyes are one of the most essential parts of our human body. Though we mostly use them for seeing things but eyes have lot more functions than that. Eyes can speak, speak silently all about your emotions and can give away your lies. Eyes speak but the words of your heart.

Eyes help you to read and understand a person’s thought and emotion. Here, I must say, that by able to read one’s emotion and thought (though it’s not totally possible to read thought), you won’t become psychic but you will get a hint of what the person might be thinking. Think about it, when you a person, you judge them on the basis of what you see. Thus, eyes acts like a mirror that reflects our true self as eyes are independent of our consciousness.

However, reading eye language is not easy. When you look at a person’s eyes in order to read their emotion, that person will also look into your eyes. Staring too long can also make a person awkward. Accept it, it does happen. And what you do then, you look away, don’t you? In order to read someone’s eye language without getting caught you cannot gaze at their eyes more than 4 seconds.

   

The Secret of Pupils

Pupils’ dilation or contraction under a constant light source depends on your mood. Pupil dilates when we get aroused or see something that stimulates us. This dilation and contraction of pupils also states our likes and dislikes respectively. Dilation of pupils makes a person attractive too. 

When you go out on a shopping and happen to like something, your pupil will dilate. This dilation of pupil indicates that you are interested in that thing. The contraction pupils occur when we come across anything that we dislike. Now, the dilation or contraction of pupils is generally depends on the good or bad experiences you experience with your five senses. When you eat any food and like it, your pupil will dilate but will contraction will occur if you don’t like it.

It is said that ‘Love needs no words’. This is true as your eyes are capable of expressing the love you have for someone. When you look at the person you love, dilation of pupils occur and this dilation of pupils also make you more attractive. Dimly lit places also cause dilation of pupils. Thus, it is advisable that initial romantic meetings must be done in dimly lit places. A lovely walk on the beach or candle light dinner is the best examples of dimly lit places suitable for such romantic encounters. When two lovers gaze deep into each other’s eyes, their pupils dilate.

Pupil decoding is practiced by shopkeepers, dealers, investigators, con artists, entertainers, psychologists, so-on and so-forth.

Look at the two pictures below. Picture (A) shows contracted pupils where picture (B) shows dilated pupils. Which one do you think is more attractive?

The Story behind Eye Movements

Looking Straight 

A person looking straight into your eyes during any conversation is a healthy sign. It indicates that the person is giving his/her utmost attention to you. However, gazing for too long does indicates that the person is distracted or is daydreaming. In that case, just pat them on their solder ask them what they are thinking. Though they will just shrug off their solder and say ‘nothing’, they will again listen to you stopping their other mental activities.

Liars and con-artist also look straight into your eyes. Generally, when a person speaks looking straight into the eyes, he/her subconsciously displays his/her honesty. However, prolonged gazing straight into the eyes or very less eye movements are associated with deceiving signals. So, next time when somebody speaks with you looking straight into your eyes and very less eye movements, be careful.

Looking Up

Looking up eyes gesture cannot be deduced without considering body language. Looking up usually indicates that the person is not only giving his/her utmost attention to something but also judiciously thinking over that it. Eyes up along with hands behind head are a healthy sign. This indicates that the person is interested in whatever activities he/she is involved, using his/her thinking power and analysis the information he/she is getting.

However, looking up with certain body language can suggest negative emotion of a person. A few second looking up followed by sighing or stretching of arms (yawning can also be taken into consideration), indicates that the person feels bored and is no more interested in whatever activity or activities the person is involved in. The person is probably calling God to save him/her from such boredom.

 Looking Down

Looking down in itself is not a healthy sign. Looking down is associated with submissive attitude. When an elderly person scolds someone for any wrong doing, the person getting scolding looks down. The person is not only allowing to be dominated by the elderly person but also feeling guilty. A person can also look down if he/she is feeling shy or is not comfortable. If someone looks down when you are talking with them, it may indicate that the person is shy. However, this is not always the case. She may not feel comfortable talking with you looking in your eyes or she is not interested in whatever you are telling that person and probably thinking how to escape from you. Thus, to know what the person might be indicating by looking, you need to know that person. If the person’s nature is shy then it is possible that the person is looking down as he/she feels shy and will not feel comfortable talking with you looking unto your eyes. If the person is not shy but looks down, then be gentle to excuse yourself and leave. 

Looking Upward Left

As discussed earlier, looking up indicates that the person is thinking. If a person’s eyes are upward and slightly inclined towards left then the person is not only thinking and processing some information but also relating those information to some past experiences or accessing some visual information of the past. Looking upward left is associated with remembered visual. When you are telling someone something and they looked upward left means the accessed their visual memory. Can you remember where the UFO was drawn on the portrait of Mona Lisa?

Did you just now look upward left?

Looking Left

When a person looks left, he/she is remembering certain auditory information. When you talk to a person and his/her eyes moves left, he/she is trying to access the auditory information from her memory. If a person looks left time to time towards the door, he/she is actually planning to escape.

Looking Downward Left

When a person’s eyes are directed downward left, the person is in his/her own word. This ‘downward look’ is associated with ‘self-talk’. This is when the person is talking and listening to their own self. We may learn a great deal about ourselves if we can pay attention to our self-talk.

Looking Downward Right

This eye movement is associated with kinesthetic. This happens when we access our actual feelings for something. Thus, looking down and to the right is done when a person is thinking about his/her feelings towards a person or thing.

Looking Right

“Whose voice is that?”

You try to discriminate the voice from other noises. Did you notice your eyes moved right?
Probably not as it happens even before you think you are doing it. When a person eyes moves right, the person is discriminating a particular sound or voice from other auditory things. Eyes to the right indicates auditory processing.

Looking Upward Right

Okay… The person you are talking with is looking upward to the right, right? Well then, it’s a good sign. You have captured the person’s attention. The person is actually verifying the logic in your words. However, this eyes movement is usually interpreted to be associated with constructed visual. The person is actually doing a visual construction in his/her mind or probably is having a visual fantasy.

 

The Eye Gestures

The Eyebrow Flash

The eyebrow flash is actually a greeting gesture and is used all over the world. The eyebrow flash is done by raising the eyebrows quickly and then dropped again. The eyebrow flash along with tight lipped smile can also be observed. This gesture is done to capture the attention of the other person.
The eyebrow flash is used in many scenarios. It is used to flirt, to express fear, surprise, disagreement or agreement and non-verbal greetings as said before.

Eye Widening

 Eye widening is often accompanied by the eyebrow flash.  Raising the eyebrow is understood to be a signal of submission. This gesture is mostly used by women. Women use eye widening along with eyebrow flash to make a ‘baby face’ which make hormones to be released in the brain stimulating men to protect the women. Thus, it’s no surprise a women gets more favor that men because this gesture is also used to get favors and women are exceptional using this gesture.

The Diana Look

‘Looking-up cluster’ is a powerful method that has a large appealing effect to men. ‘Looking-up cluster’ or ‘The Diana Look’ is done by lowering the head which makes the eyes appear larger and looking up sideways. Princess Diana used to use this gesture. It gesture stimulates maternal effect in people towards the person using it.

The Passionate Look

This gesture is known to trigger the loving or sexual feeling towards the person using it. However, in this case too women are the ones who use it. Marilyn Monroe used this gesture to light the fire of passion in the hearts of men. This gesture is done by lowering eyelids and raising eyebrows, looking up and slightly parting the lips. This gesture gives a person a mysterious aura and makes them more attractive.

Conclusion

Eyes do give clues about what is going on in a person’ mind. Decoding and reading the hidden message in the eyes can make us successfully understand a person’s feelings and emotion. Eyes are one of the most wonderful parts in our body and the tale of eyes is also a fascinating one. Reading and understanding the eye language is fascinating in itself.