Secret of Osculation

Does kissing means only the meeting of lips or expression of love or is it deeper and meaningful than just that?

Movies often show the enactment of kiss which maybe out of simple romance or having sexual innuendo (according to the script). Some kisses are dry while some are wet, some are fast while some are slow and some are tender while some are furious. We see different arsenal of kiss in movies but these scenes in the movie are used to incite and make the audience feel the love between the lovers in the film.

The act of osculation i.e. kiss, is the most beautiful way to express love for someone. Kiss can be done for numerous purposes – greeting, to convey affection, in religious ceremonies (as in Christianity), for consoling, for romance and during lovemaking. However, media only focuses on the fact that the osculation happens only between lovers and married couples. This effect of media made the act of osculation a taboo in the society. Its adverse effect doesn’t end here. Most teenagers have kissed within 3-4 months of their new relationship. They feel the urge to kiss as they think they should do it as they are in a relationship. They consider it a must as the media had programmed their subconscious mind with the idea that a relationship is incomplete without a kiss. They feel (mostly men), that by kissing, they are conveying some kind of note to others that they are the possessor of the person they have kissed. It’s almost similar to the nature of wild animals who mark their territory and the consequence can be dangerous for any trespasser. Even in relationship, if someone talks with an individual’s lover, a feeling of jealousy and annoyance is evoked.

 

However, kiss is one of the most beautiful yet deadly weapon given to mankind. A kiss can either strengthen a bond or can destroy a relationship. Psychologist Helen Fisher suggested that men's saliva contains testosterone, which they transfer to women to increase the latter's sex drive. Likewise, men use the woman's saliva to learn about the woman's fertility. Is a kiss just bound to the above-mentioned fact or there are more reasons why lovers are more inclined to kiss even before they have wholly known about their lovers?

The first kiss between lovers is the most beautiful and memorable kiss a person could ever experience in his/her whole life. There is satisfaction, trust, and curiosity in the first kiss. Kissing is not a sexual act but deeper than that. It symbolizes an emotional bond. Women give more importance to kiss rather than sex as they always want an emotional connection. The same is not same for men. According to Maryanne Fisher, Ph.D., Kissing represents one of the most romantic acts that can be performed, and because women tend to like romance, they like kissing. Sometimes kiss can be propelled out by the sexual desire but only to create an emotional bond. As Judy Garland once said, “T'was not my lips you kissed but my soul.”

As relation proceeds, kiss becomes a minor necessity for men but more important to women. However, it is seen that men prefer wet kiss than women do i.e. men prefer more tongue contact and saliva. As mentioned before kiss provides essential information about the mate, unfortunately men are not gifted with

chemosensory detection unlike women. Women have developed taste buds in their tongue and thus they are also good in chemosensory detection. This is why men prefer more tongue contact and saliva.

Therefore, osculation is a crucial part in one’s relationship. 6 out of 10 teenagers have experienced kiss but most of their relationship are short-lived. So, the sweet memory of their first kiss becomes a nightmare later after breakup as they cannot or tend to feel that they cannot move on. However, kiss has become very common now-a-days and somewhere it has lost its true reason i.e. creation of emotional bond.