Virginity At Stake

Sex is the most powerful arsenal given to man and one should not engage in it until marriage. The question is ‘why?’

Once I came across an article where sex was compared with the atom bomb. It said:

Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly, it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But, if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

Sex is an important part of our life. Sex reassures the survival of species (birth of new infant). In Indian culture, premarital sex is viewed as taboo.

Human beings in fact are sexual beings. Starting from the time of maturity until old age, human beings get sexually aroused in numerous occasion (more obvious for men). Sometimes non-sexual touch by a woman at certain places (like shoulder or thigh) can make a man misinterpret it as a sexual interest. Our mentality is inclined towards sex mostly by media, peers and by our hormones. Men get erection whenever they get aroused along with increase in heartbeat and faster breathing whereas women generally breathe faster and their heartbeat increases.

Sexual activity has increased since 1960 and the rate of premarital sex and pregnancy has increased. However, taking the decision of having ‘sex’ was never easy for both men and women for the first time. Mixed feeling of fear and guilt was always a concern for the people of both the sexes. Deciding whether to engage in the act of sex deserves careful thought. It’s not surprising to hear a 9^th or 10^th grade student had sex. Though first act of lovemaking was always memorable for a couple, it is not same for the teenagers or at least not for females. In case of teenagers, sexual intercourse are not planned nor given a though about place, time and privacy but it just happens.

An Iowa State University Psychology Professor, Gerrard, reasoned this behavior in engaging in sexual activity as:

A more reasoned path that leads to intention to engage in a behavior; or a more intuitive path that leads to an openness or willingness to engage in a behavior. These two modes are always active

in everybody, but a situation may lead an adolescent in one direction or another. Some people are more prone to operate in a more reasoned fashion, while others are more impulsive.

Premarital sexual activity can seize the psychological, academic, and social development. This is because teenagers are not mature enough to deal with the psychological, physical, and social consequences. Virginity is the greatest gift a person can give his/her lover. Virginity must be lost to such a person who would live in a committed relation with you bonded by marriage. If in an active relationship, a couple is dating but doesn’t engage in the act of sex, can forget about the relation and move on when they get separated. But if a couple engaged themselves in sexual activity and then breakup, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant reminiscences for the rest of the life and sometimes even creates trouble in later marriage life mainly for women. This is because oxytocin, which is also called the cuddle hormone, is releases during intercourse. This creates a deep bond between the two partners engaged in sexual act. Apart from these, there are always chances of transmission of Sexually transmitted Disease (STDs) like AIDS and herpes that have no cure.

If your partner truly loves you, he/she will wait for the right time, as he/she would want the very best for you. He/she will not want you to suffer from fear, guilt, unwanted pregnancy, or any psychological disorder. The best place to experience lovemaking is in the love nest of marriage itself.